Sexuality is an important part of a woman’s health. There’s absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal about women who like being stimulated by, or who reach orgasm by stimulation of the G-spot. Some women have actually experienced their first orgasm by stimulation of the G-spot. It’s actually good if reading this might help those women who enjoy this type of stimulation and the resulting orgasms with or without the ejaculating of fluid to feel good about themselves and enjoy what they are experiencing.

Many women have reported feeling abnormal because they liked this kind of stimulation or because they expelled a fluid with sexual stimulation. In fact, some women in the past learned to hold back the fluid and not have an orgasm to avoid the embarassment of being what they considered abnormal.

Social mores

Being aware of anxieties about orgasm and stimulation could well contribute enormously towards a better experience for both partners. To someone with a conservative attitude, or perhaps even a fear of sex or certain sexual practices – be it because of cultural or even religious reasons – this sound advice should be stimulus enough to shed those inhibitions and let loose in the bedroom.

The G-spot  does not lie on the vaginal wall itself, but can be felt through it. It is usually felt about half way back between the pubic bone and the cervix and feels like a small lump that swells as it is stimulated. The Grafenberg spot or G-spot is a female erogenous zone, which when stimulated can lead to high levels of sexual arousal and powerful orgasms. It is located about one to three inches inside the vagina, on the anterior wall. This area was named after Dr Ernst Grafenberg who wrote about it in 1950.

Female Genitalia

When it is first touched, many women feel the need to urinate even though their bladders may have just been emptied. However, within two to 10 seconds of massage, the initial reaction is replaced in some women by a strong and distinctive feeling of sexual pleasure.

The G-spot

Some women report multiple orgasms from this type of stimulation, possibly even accompanied by an expulsion of fluid. The fluid that is sometimes expelled looks like ‘watered down fat-free milk’ – it does not smell, taste or stain like urine and its chemical composition is different from urine.

Euphoria

Women have reported that they have difficulty finding and stimulating their G-spot by themselves (except with a dildo, a G-spot vibrator or similar device) but they have no problem identifying the erotic sensation when the area is stimulated by a partner.

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The problem with trying to locate the Grafenberg spot by yourself is that you need very long fingers and /or a short vagina to reach the area while lying on your back. Having located your G-spots, women should experiment with them. They need to use a heavier pressure than they do on the clitoris and they may feel  the sensations deeper inside than when they do with clitoral stimulation.

After having explored your G-spot yourself, you might want to share the experience with your partner. It can be stimulated by the partner’s fingers (with a “come here” type of motion, a dildo or a penis. The position most likely to lead to a stimulation with a penis is with the woman sitting on top of the male.

More than just sex

Having said that, there is more to a sexual encounter or experience than just achieving orgasm; which isn’t the be all and end all of good sexual intercourse. By this, people may either be goal or pleasure-directed. Males are usually the former while females are typically the latter.

People who are goal-directed will look only to achieving orgasm, instead of looking at all the other responses or experiences while getting there; such as touching, kissing, caressing and the like. Pleasure-oriented people will look at the pleasurable experiences and responses in the sexual act rather than just orgasm alone. Not everything has to be about orgasm alone. Kissing, holding and touching each other can also be good.

If both partners are of different orientations, it could be a problem that they must discuss with each other. Intimacy, bonding and respecting each other are important but women must also be knowledgeable about the ways and things that they find pleasurable.

Communication is very important to enhance the sexual experience. Pleasure and satisfaction are so much more important than orgasm. The focus should not only be on the goals but rather on the process of sexual gratification. Sexual intercourse is not the only way to feel sexually satisfied. People who feel comfortable seems to be happier, more self-assured and live longer.

Sexuality and life

Sexuality is an important aspect of a woman’s health. Female sexuality encompasses a broad range of issues, behavior and processes including female sexual identity and sexual behavior, the physiological, psychological, social, cultural, political and even spiritual or religious aspects of sex.

All people are sexual beings from birth to death. The Planned Parenthood Federation of America says sexuality must be understood as an essential, lifelong aspect of being human and should be celebrated with respect, openness and mutuality.

Lotsa love,

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