I feel like Dr Phil or more like Dr Love when I discuss this kind of topic. These are three easy changes that will make a good relationship GREAT!
- Talk yourself up
Relationships flourish when we are happy in ourselves. Whether it’s catching up new movie in cinema or cooking a fabulous dinner, do things that will give yourself as well as your relationship a boost.
- Say thank you
He may not buy you flowers ( well, my hubby said they were such a waste… ouch! ) but did you notice the cup of tea he just made you? Small acts of thoughtfulness speak louder than grand gestures. Look out for them and tell him how much they mean to you. It doesn’t hurt your ego or cost you a penny to say thank you!
- Listen up
When your partner comes to you with a problem, take a moment to consider what he needs from you. Is it empathy, a solution or just a different perspective? Respond in a way that will work for him.
- Go it alone
Wanting to learn something without him doesn’t mean your relationships is in trouble. Research shows the more supportive our partner, the more independent we are. Take my husband for example. I get through fight against obesity and unhappiness because of him. He’s always there even during the time my weight bounce back. Thanks hun!
- Get connected
Connect with someone emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually. Do not disregard one and expect a relationship to work.
- Stop looking for ‘ perfect ‘
Expect difficulties and always open your mind to find ways to overcome them. Running away when your relationship is in trouble is totally uncool! Trust me, if you keep running away every time problems sets in… you are not allowing the relationship to reach a place with any depth.
- Stop nit – picking
Try to minimize on nit – picking or finding fault in each others. I changed from being a bitch who always nag and wanting my hubby to be so called ‘ Mr. Perfect ‘ ( and vice versa ) . Those acts create tensions between us. You are not your partner. Communication is important. You need someone who can deal with you when you throw wobbly and to comfort you when you’re upset.